We look at others and think, One of / not one of us. Then we make a value judgment depending on who “us” is. Some people may look with distaste at a woman with body piercings, ripped jeans, a studded belt, a streak of chartreuse in their hair and a good-sized tattoo on their shoulder. Consider that it took that woman a good deal of time and trouble, not to say money, to leave the house looking like that this morning. She must believe there’s a show to be won. In her breed or category, that’s what the judges are looking for this year. Other people may look at a man whose job requires him to always be dressed in a certain way, like George Clooney in “Up in the Air,” and think That poor asshole. There but for the grace of God go I.