“I shut my eyes and all the world drops dead; I lift my eyes and all is born again.”
– Sylvia Plath
“I shut my eyes and all the world drops dead; I lift my eyes and all is born again.”
– Sylvia Plath
We are gathered here today
To get through this thing called life
Electric word “life”
It means forever and that’s a mighty long time
But I’m here to tell you, there’s something else
Upgrade Ubuntu 14.04 LTS to the newest kernel just in case you want to play with later versions of Dockers or systemd on an LTS release.
Step 1 – First check “kernel.ubuntu.com/~kernel-ppa/mainline” to find out the current mainline kernel. As I type this it is 4.3.4 but you may not want to copy and paste these as it has probably changed by the time you read this. It is software, right?
sudo su mkdir -p /home/ubuntu/kernels cd /home/ubuntu/kernels/ wget kernel.ubuntu.com/~kernel-ppa/mainline/v4.3.4-wily/linux-headers-4.3.4-040304_4.3.4-040304.201601230132_all.deb wget kernel.ubuntu.com/~kernel-ppa/mainline/v4.3.4-wily/linux-headers-4.3.4-040304-generic_4.3.4-040304.201601230132_amd64.deb wget kernel.ubuntu.com/~kernel-ppa/mainline/v4.3.4-wily/linux-image-4.3.4-040304-generic_4.3.4-040304.201601230132_amd64.deb sudo dpkg -i linux-headers-4.3.4*.deb linux-image-4.3.4*.deb sudo reboot
NOTE: I have hit an error on this upgrade several times similar to this:
Errors were encountered while processing:
The fix was to run these
apt-get -f install
Next you MUST REBOOT. Then log back in and check what kernel you are running
# from that you get a long string and in the string you should see something like this:
Keep googling for more, or duckduckgo-ing. My biggest advice would be to create a throw-away VM in the cloud to test this stuff. VMWare isn’t great for networking by “sox” imho.
invisible ink here
It is important to note that suddenly, and against all probability, a Sperm Whale had been called into existence, several miles above the surface of an alien planet and since this is not a naturally tenable position for a whale, this innocent creature had very little time to come to terms with its identity.
This is what it thought, as it fell:
Ahhh! Woooh! What’s happening? Who am I? Why am I here? What’s my purpose in life? What do I mean by who am I?
Okay okay, calm down calm down get a grip now. Ooh, this is an interesting sensation. What is it? Its a sort of tingling in my… well I suppose I better start finding names for things. Let’s call it a… tail! Yeah! Tail! And hey, what’s this roaring sound, whooshing past what I’m suddenly gonna call my head? Wind! Is that a good name? It’ll do.
Yeah, this is really exciting. I’m dizzy with anticipation! Or is it the wind? There’s an awful lot of that now isn’t it? And what’s this thing coming toward me very fast? So big and flat and round, it needs a big wide sounding name like ‘Ow’, ‘Ownge’, ‘Round’, ‘Ground’! That’s it! Ground! Ha!
I wonder if it’ll be friends with me? Hello Ground!
OPINION: The topic is init scripts. The part of a computer that determines what starts first and next and next etc. Most of my readers, and I thank you both, will want to close this tab in your browser and come back on a non-geeky day.
System Init. – Do you need your keyboard before your monitor? Nah, we’ll bring up the monitor before the keyboard.. And yet we have bigger issues like when to initialize the CPU, RAM, HDs, USVs peripherals, etc.
So I was udating my automatic services in Windows… oh wait, no it was in Linux on 14.04.3 and everything kept telling me the same thing.
zOMG why are you using upstart when systemd is the bright-new-shiny!?!?
I know I’ll have to give in but this thing smells like something between SELLinux and WindowsNT’s implementation of POSIX.
The following is a repost of a fb post by Houston’s own Andrew Rebman. A photographer, gentleman, generous, observant, kind, and welcoming soul. He truly loved Houston and will be missed by us all, including many who don’t even know he is the man behind so many photos they have seen.
At 42, we lost him far too young.
“I shambled after as I’ve been doing all my life after people who interest me, because the only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones that never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars and in the middle you see the blue centerlight pop and everybody goes ‘Awww!'”
His facebook page is now a tribute page and the chron has his obituary up. That’s all we know right now. The following is from FB and the chron.
Andrew Adair Rebman
Andrew Adair Rebman died peacefully the 22nd of February 2016 at the age of 42.
He is survived by his parents, John and Gina Rebman; sister, Jennifer Rebman Tyler, and her husband, John Tyler and their sons, Nicholas and Christopher, and his large extended family.The memorial service is to be conducted at three o’clock in the afternoon on Sunday, the 6th of March, in the Jasek Chapel of Geo. H. Lewis & Sons, 1010 Bering Drive in Houston.In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made in his honor to Hermann Park Conservancy, 1700 Hermann Park Drive, Houston, TX 77004; Lifeline Chaplaincy, 1415 Southmore Blvd., Houston, TX 77004; or to a charity of your choice .
American corporate espionage preparedness, in a random sample and via anecdotes, is in bad shape. We are not prepared.
The video is 30 minutes but worth it for training your team. Now a question.
NOTHING. There is no difference between a speaker, headphones or microphones. No. Difference. At. All. None.
Plug your headset into the microphone jack on the stereo and poof – you have a mic.
Why do you care? Because if your employees are relaxing after work, at the local vegan cafe. Just unwinding, spending 20 minutes at the salad bar. nearby people hypothetically might get bored. “Hackers aren’t vegans” you say, “so it can’t happen here.”
Mics vs speakers – the answer is anyone can just put their iphone down with the headphones in and record away. Especially if the marks are “extremely loud bar talkers” as these two were.
Identity? Well gosh, they left their credit card receipt detail side up so I could helpfully straighten their table and take a quick photo of their info on the way to the restroom
How does this impact you? Well these two gentlemen next to me are clearly in town for a conference. Still wearing lanyards with fortune 500 company logos? Accents. Of course, we’re either the first or second most diverse city in the USA.
Again, It’s Houston – we know what’s going on. Houston is all about the back channel. And once your dialed in? Well it’s kinda like the matrix. Seriously – why else would millions of people live in a paved over swamp with the moniker “The Bayou City”?
Back to the situation at hand. These fools spouting corporate secrets next to me because I have headphones on and my audio turned off.
I’m white hat so no, I did not record anything and will not inform their companies nor will I inform them. No I did not take a detailed photo of their receipt although it sits just to my right at the moment as it has for 10 minutes.
Honestly I have other battles to fight. And so do you. Yet make no mistake – if they had revealed some anti-American activity I would have arranged for them to meet up with some of my friends who love America as much as me and my friends know how to handle such matters delicately.
This blog post is simply an anecdote, a story that is true, of knuckle-heads who weren’t thinking before they spoke.
As for companies that employ people, what are our options? First the obvious – we can try to hire for common sense, Then you can train and test – I do drills to test our team,
Big picture? What will work best? Dunno. I do know ignoring the issue of human hacking /social engineering isn’t the solution.
To repeat, we know humans are the weak link because I’ve tested it with my own company and as a paid approved pentester at the request of some of our clients. I’ve unfortunately been 100% successful in finding security holes in my pre-approved and client authorized tests.
Even when the employees KNEW ahead of time that someone was testing the systems..I’ve yet to fail to find an opening and honestly I’m not that good at the whole pentesting thing … like I don’t have the best tools or a infinite budget or even a good lock pick set with a proper bump key.
In other words – I’m amateur at best and only to protect my own clients.
But sheesh, a little reality training would go a long way with folks like this. The humans are almost always the weak point. I was in one restaurant and they said “ya, the Internet has been spotty for days.” I said “well maybe I can help. Would you mind taking photos of the front, back, connections and the serial number on your router and I might be able to fix it.”
I still have the photos on an encrypted drive somewhere. My point is I didn’t misrepresent myself as a Comcast employee or whatever. I just said I was a customer and that I might be able to help.
Back to our main storyline. It is YOU, the management team and every employee who is handling YOUR company’s data. It should take more than sitting down next to two guys drinking IPAs for me to even have the opportunity to gather that type of intel.
And the router example where the waiter literally texted me all of the technical specs of the router? xOMG, no excuse.
In the various circumstances I fixed their internet, got their credit card processing systems working again, reset passwords with upper management’s permission. I did what I would do with my own family’s business.
What did happen is that even with permission and weeks of advance notice, zero clients or friends have had any network my team has tested properly secured. It was not barriers already installed that blocked us. On the rare occasion we ere too impatient to power through something (which we can do), it was laziness, we simply were tired and wanted to go home. So we’d just ask a manager and say it was part of the test. Seriously.
Grok that. Leaders at a company who were specifically told who we were, that we were there to test network security, that it was serious and they were to block us in every way possible. Those managers would give u the keys to the kingdom if i asked the right way. (the “right way” is vague on purpose. I’ll do another post on that one later.)
Perhaps the scariest part is that I personally was never impeded by even the most basic security training for these employees or their own intellectual “well duh I shouldn’t do that” factor. In every instance if I hit a roadblock they helped me bypass any remaining obstacles.
PS – for the curious, the fastest network break in I’ve ever done? 5 minutes. The owner asked us to test his network security. I agreed and we agreed on a price (remember this guy didn’t know me from Adam). Then I said “of course we’ll need your login to monitor how the red team is doing. He then just blurted out his username/password for the network and for his email. And assured us it wouldn’t be a problem with anything else because he always “used the same password.” Gosh. We printed nice reports and pounded sand for a few days, but it was the fastest… whatever you want to call it.
PPS – I bet if you owned stock in that corporation and liked the CEO you’d call it a hack. Similarly if a black hat, you’d call it like it was.
oooooh. oooooh. ooooooh.
or then there is chill for Francesca Lombardo but more my thing than the usual. Programming music for sure.
And one more rising star:
But, honestly, here’s the thing that nobody really talks about when it comes to success and motivation and willpower and
goals and productivity and all those little buzzwords that have come into popularity: you are as you are until you’re not.
You change when you want to change. You put your ideas into action in the timing that is best. That’s just how it happens.
And what I think we all need more than anything is this: permission to be wherever the fuck we are when we’re there.
You’re not a robot. You can’t just conjure up motivation when you don’t have it.
There’s a magic beyond us that works in ways we can’t understand. We can’t game it. We can’t 10-point list it. We can’t control it. We have to just let it be, to take a fucking step back for a moment, stop beating ourselves up into oblivion, and to let the cogs turn as they will. One day, this moment will make sense. Trust that.
Give yourself permission to trust that.
Jamie Varon is a writer based out of Los Angeles. You can connect with her on Twitter, Instagram, and at her Facebook page. Because we all need candid smart and fearless thinkers in our lives. This one impresses me.
I recently posted a link on facebook to Sci-Hub.io. Known as the Pirate Bay of the science world created 2011 by neuroscientist Alexandra Elbakyan. After posting the article link to FB there was one single response. A response that seemed to imply the pirate site was childish theft. That it was an “I want everything for free” attitude. It’s hard to argue otherwise. Us and our first world problems.
Taken from a behavioral perspective, if you recall, before the itunes store made buying songs easy, everyone downloaded them for free. Before the kindle made downloading books electronically cheap and convenient, everyone downloaded them for free. Make it convenient or someone else will make it really convenient!
First, what is sci-hub.io ? From the article “Researcher illegally shares millions of science papers free online to spread knowledge” by FIONA MACDONALD:
A researcher in Russia has made more than 48 million journal articles – almost every single peer-reviewed paper every published – freely available online. And she’s now refusing to shut the site down, despite a court injunction and a lawsuit from Elsevier, one of the world’s biggest publishers.
For those of you who aren’t already using it, the site in question is Sci-Hub, and it’s sort of like a Pirate Bay of the science world. It was established in 2011 by neuroscientist Alexandra Elbakyan, who was frustrated that she couldn’t afford to access the articles needed for her research…
Maybe I had a knee jerk reaction of vindication seeing this research become freely available after the tragedy of Aaron Schwartz’ suicide in 2013 from overzealous persecution for accessing JSTOR documents from the MIT network. I’m seriously wondering if JSTOR is trying to make sure Martin Shkreli quits dominating the “evil capitalist stories” the media likes to write.
And to be clear, I walk the talk. Our company’s product is Tendenci – the Open Source Membership Management Software (on github too) and most of my photography is creative commons attribution
as seen used in this publication below fully within copyright laws with attribution. We can play nicely together.
JSTOR’s purpose after all is to;
JSTOR was founded to be a shared digital archive serving the scholarly community. We understand the value of the scholarship and other material on the platform and that the future accessibility of this content is essential. Libraries around the world rely on us and contribute Archive Capital Fees to JSTOR for preservation activities.
To understand a Russian academics perspective, this data I found on the Internet for free, says that the overall average monthly income in Russia in 2005 was a NET total of $263 per month. Now that $25 JSTOR article for which the author was paid nothing by JSTOR is 10% of that Russian student’s monthly income.
That kind of changes your perspective a bit, huh?
I can and do understand why people would immediately view sci-hub.io as theft. Except for academics this just isn’t a black and white issue. There are a few differences.
I can’t afford to pay $45 for every research paper I want to read knowing the research was funded by federal grants, underwritten by the University and the authors were not compensated.
Why not bring the economics down to the level of the app store?
How does JSTOR add value if they don’t pay the authors and didn’t write the content? Their answer is “peer review and legitimacy,” but those can now be conveyed on the internet. Aren’t there other solutions?
Why can’t we sign a peer review article with a blockchain? It’s not just jstor but modern academics that haven’t kept up. Being a non-profit doesn’t mean you get to ignore everything that is going on with economics via externalities.
I’ll leave those thoughts for y’all to ponder. As for me I discovered a fully legal work around for when I wanted an academic article years ago. And here it is:
Problem: writing a research paper for a national PR Magazine on “Intrinsic Motivation and Extrinsic Incentives”. Solution:
And the bottom line is the TOPIC I was interested in in a peer reviewed science journal as recent at 2014 was downloaded within 5 minutes. It takes me longer to print it than find it. Not that sci-hub.io probably couldn’t do it even faster. And that is a good thing for the globe. Now back to reading….
… In our study area, despite the potential of infestation of opportunistic behaviors by workers, a fixed wage (FW) contract has been dominant for rice planting since the 1960s. To account for this puzzle of a seemingly-inefficient contractual arrangement, we adopt a hybrid experimental method of framed field experiments by randomly assigning three distinct labor contracts, i.e., FW, individual piece rate (IPR), and group piece rate (GPR) contracts and artefactual filed experiments to elicit social preference parameters. Through the analyses of individual workers’ performance data from framed field experiments and data on social preferences elicited by artefactual field experiments, Three main empirical findings emerge. First……
Life can be complex. But I got what I wanted, I didn’t use it because after scanning it it wasn’t the article I was looking for. It sent unused, I didn’t pay for it, but I also threw it away, but mainly I acquired it and came to that decision faster than I could have typed in my credit card number to buy it from JSTOR.
In this case the economics didn’t match the need. I solved it for myself, and sci-hub is apparently solving it for millions. Open our minds and find a better optimum solution. We can and should do this.
The US National Anthem sung at the opening of Super Bowl 50 by Lady Gaga. She is a talented gift to all of us. But more importantly, this country, this land of opportunity is still the land of opportunity and her expression of that before the game was stunning.
Tip of the hat to you Ma’am. Because this… this performance, this artist singing, this country, are all trying very hard to improve and your performance before the Super Bowl was an excellent reminder of what makes us different. God Bless you Lady Gaga!
I-FIRE – Holiday House:
“Return to Base” – remembering my Dad on his Birthday and wishing he was still with us. Without family you have no courage. I am blessed to have love and support on both sides of my family, unconditionally, which is perhaps the greatest gift of all.
Happy Birthday Dad. You are still very much loved and very much missed, but as a kid from Bridgeport who achieved the dreams of 1000 Romans, there is no question you lived life to it’s fullest. I love you for teaching me that and so much more (much of which I can’t put in a blog post.)
You’re loyalty to God, to Country and to the Family was completely unshakeable. Even when they gave the call to “return to base” for the very last time. Love you Dad. And Happy Birthday.
A cross post from blog.tendenci.com on Dr. Martin Luther King day. Here’s to the Dreamers out there who won’t take no for an answer.
On 28 August, 1963, Martin Luther King delivered his magnificent “I have a dream speech” on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial in Washington. Below is the full text of his speech.
Written excerpt from Dr. King’s speech from the BBC:
Let us not wallow in the valley of despair. I say to you today, my friends, that in spite of the difficulties and frustrations of the moment, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream.
I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed – we hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men are created equal.
I have a dream that one day on the red hills of Georgia the sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave-owners will be able to sit down together at a table of brotherhood.
I have a dream that one day even the state of Mississippi, a desert state, sweltering with the heat of injustice and oppression, will be transformed into an oasis of freedom and justice.
I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the colour of their skin but by the content of their character.
I have a dream today!
I have a dream that one day, down in Alabama, with its vicious racists, with its governor having his lips dripping with the words of interposition and nullification; one day right there in Alabama little black boys and little black girls will be able to join hands with little white boys and white girls as sisters and brothers.
I have a dream today!
I have a dream that one day every valley shall be exalted, every hill and mountain shall be made low, the rough places will be made plain, and the crooked places will be made straight, and the glory of the Lord shall be revealed, and all flesh shall see it together.
This is our hope. This is the faith that I will go back to the South with. With this faith we will be able to hew out of the mountain of despair a stone of hope.
With this faith we will be able to transform the jangling discords of our nation into a beautiful symphony of brotherhood. With this faith we will be able to work together, to pray together, to struggle together, to go to jail together, to stand up for freedom together, knowing that we will be free one day.
This will be the day, this will be the day when all of God’s children will be able to sing with a new meaning: “My country, ’tis of thee, sweet land of liberty, of thee I sing. Land where my fathers died, land of the pilgrim’s pride, from every mountainside, let freedom ring.” And if America is to be a great nation, this must become true.
And so let freedom ring from the prodigious hilltops of New Hampshire.
Let freedom ring from the mighty mountains of New York.
Let freedom ring from the heightening Alleghenies of Pennsylvania!
Let freedom ring from the snow-capped Rockies of Colorado.
Let freedom ring from the curvaceous peaks of California.
But not only that.
Let freedom ring from Stone Mountain of Georgia.
Let freedom ring from Lookout Mountain of Tennessee.
Let freedom ring from every hill and every molehill of Mississippi, from every mountainside, let freedom ring!
And when this happens, when we allow freedom to ring, when we let it ring from every village and every hamlet, from every state and every city, we will be able to speed up that day when all of God’s children, black men and white men, Jews and Gentiles, Protestants and Catholics, will be able to join hands and sing in the words of the old Negro spiritual: “Free at last! Free at last! thank God Almighty, we are free at last!”
You feel like a failure. You know, a failure like Elon Musk. To quote the irresponsible risk taking and brilliant Mr Musk:
“The end of 2008 was really really terrible. I never thought of myself as somebody who could have a nervous breakdown…. I came pretty close honestly in 2008 the day before Christmas…. We just barely made it.”
Q: “So you did have those experiences?”
A: “We had multiple near death experiences. Like death on the nose. Not just in front of you.'”
Q “What’s it like when you go all in and you are about to lose?”
A: “It’s quite a terrible emotion actually.”
So maybe Elon is crazy. He risked his own failure and thousands of people’s jobs. But he isn’t a failure. He rebounded pretty well it turns out. Because he was willing to face death and total failure and keep fighting. To use his words “death on the tip of your nose” and then salvation one hour before Tesla would have gone bankrupt.
One hour. One single hour away from complete devastation.
“Be strong and courageous.
Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged”
– Joshua 1:9
RIP to David Bowie. A man more powerful than a cultural tornado. I searched google for David Bowie quotes and this is what shows up without clicking a link. #awesome
I don’t know where I’m going from here, but I promise it won’t be boring.
I always had a repulsive need to be something more than human. I felt very puny as a human. I thought, “Fuck that. I want to be a superhuman.
I’m an instant star. Just add water and stir.
Indeed. First his last poignant gift if moribund
He is up there as an innovator in my my mind with the likes of Grace Jones
I know Madonna and Lady Gaga will live well beyond their time with us with such constant renewal and reinvention.
And it makes me also think of Elvis Presley of course. But I really don’t remember.
David Byrne describing creativity and the difficulty of diversity
How did I get here?
David and so many of these other artists were such a huge influence on me and I’m not even a musician. Mr. David Bowie – your talent will be remembered and your creativity will continue to inspire. I hope they play this one at your funeral because this is how I prefer to imagine your life-after my friend.
Applause Applause Indeed to you Mr. Bowie. And as you did so many times, I give credit to the people you influenced. The people who carry your legacy on.
There is nothing wrong with those that want the “normal” life. Or is there? I can’t say I “miss it” as I’m not sure what a “normal life” looks like.
Here is what I do know. I may be crazy, and you may have been crazy, but I’d rather live life to it’s fullest with or without applause, but definitely a life without regrets. I’ve failed brilliantly and publicly many times. So you reinvented, and I learned that from the few, the rare, the audacious artists who were told “you can’t fly silly little man” and you said “fuck you, fly to keep up with me or we aren’t in the same flock.”
I don’t think I’m in your league in any way with my humble accomplishments, but I give you credit and I give you applause from another talent inspired by creative giants like yourself.
Featured image: http://www.ybca.org/ziggy-stardust
#peace #fuckit #schadenfreude #goforit #gravityIsYourChoiceSoDefyIt
On openness and open minds. While you read “the facts,” who is to say that the author of the “facts” isn’t incorrect themselves given the “history is written by the victors”? (Note quote and article – via @SarahWorthy)
From “The Other Side is Not Dumb”
I implore you to seek out your opposite. When you hear someone cite “facts” that don’t support your viewpoint don’t think “that can’t be true!” Instead consider, “Hm, maybe that person is right? I should look into this.”
Because refusing to truly understand those who disagree with you is intellectual laziness and worse, is usually worse than what you’re accusing the Other Side of doing.
My take away from the article is similar to what I have always advocated (maybe it’s a meta-meta-meta loop and I’m being duped again?). Anyway, those principles in communication are:
I believe I am qualified to speak on this subject for a few odd reasons. Like the fact that it is hard for me to be present. Being open minded is always a challenge. And listening first is also a challenge. I’m qualified to venture an opinion because I have failed so many times. Sometimes failure teaches more than success.
Then, you get older. You listen more. You respect facts but question bias in statistics. You trust your gut. Your pattern recognition carries more weight than a persuasive graphic alone.
Mostly, in my opinion you learn to listen to other people deeply. You are “present” and you “hear” them. You learn to “see” people in a different way. You aren’t present because you have to, but because you desire the wisdom they are sharing even if you don’t agree. You listen because, maybe with their input, you might come to agree and learn from them! Your passion for wisdom and knowledge outweighs the biases and prejudices we all develop.
I had a friend describe working for me (I’m paraphrasing as it has been a while.)
“It’s hard to get your attention. But when you have your attention, its 100%. It can be a bit much.”
I may have gotten the wording wrong, but it was said by one of my true friends who has been there for me for over 20 years. I respect his opinion and I used his feedback to try to tone my presence down without turning down the attention with which I listen and speak.
Changes I made? Everything from changing my attire to be more casual even in business-suit-Houston and studying my own body posture when listening. Crossing my arms and looking down was my habit when listening deeply. It turns out not everyone interprets my posture for what it was; it came across as disapproving to some when it was in fact the exact opposite. So I changed. I learned to lean against a tree and nod my head, not always in agreement, but to acknowledge what they were saying. So when I say I took my friends feedback seriously, I mean it. I even read two more books on body language.
My reward for my changes? I get to learn more from more interesting people. I LOVE THAT!
As they say, “the thing with introverts is that it is NOT that they don’t like to talk. It’s that they like to talk about things they are interested in.”
That of course is why we must listen first and learn about things we know nothing about without interrupting people, because that curiosity might uncover something new we are interested in. It is respectful to others. And learning is a lifelong endeavor – I have no intention to stop being curious or learning from others as long as I am breathing.
Avicii’s video for Wake Me Up really captures the loss if we fail to listen to our youth in particular (more after the jump).
Modern knowledge in the Internet age swirls around like a whirlpool, regardless of age, gender, nationality or some certificate on your wall. Degrees in my field for example are close to irrelevant. This amazing kindling of knowledge I am seeing is practically a cauldron about to spill over for those not paying attention.
Example: you are likely to learn more from those younger than you this year than those older than you if you are over 40.
Youth of course has it’s own arrogance and may not want to learn from their elders because like EVERY generation they believe they know more. But they MUST have this arrogance or they won’t take risks, start companies, invent calculus, and push our society forward. Still, they can learn from their elders. But only, only if they respect you first. And they are the future. So yes, if you are over 40, get off your high horse and earn THEIR respect even if when we were 20 it was our job to earn the respect of 40 year olds.
I have traditionally, and will continue to respectfully, listen to my elders by being fully present. To learn from their wisdom. Yet…..
I must observe that in the last six months in particular, I have learned more from carefully listening to people sometimes much younger than me. To give them the floor and listen deeply and respectfully.
If you listen, our youth from 5 to 20 are particularly generous with their knowledge. I am so grateful to my younger friends and acquaintances who “grok” that I am interested in what they are teaching me. That I am fully present and grateful to them for sharing their knowledge with me.
This respect is the same as how appreciative I am of my 70 or 80 year old friend who share with me. Tell me stories. It’s kind of awesome. People are people, we should not underestimate them regardless of age.
The reward from these interchanges is truly priceless. Knowledge, respect, love, a human connection. Pay it forward in a time when knowledge is flying back and forth between all generations and cultures. It’s an exciting (and stressful) time to live. But definitely not boring, my friends!
For the curious ones out there, now is the time. Shut up and dance. Listen first. Be present. Be open minded.
Stories are the best way to share knowledge. Tell yours to those who are intently interested. And be interested in others and ask them to tell you their story. It’s a start. For example I know Alie will teach me to fire dance.
Fire dancing is something I will not do. But if asked, there is a possibility of zero that Alie would not share this knowledge with me. It is knowledge one question away from me. What a cool world we live in!
Instead, I choose to photograph my friends, be present, listen to them, and learn what I can while wishing they would keep the fire farther away from me. (Even if my mantra is to move fast and break things.)
PS – Day job stuff. As the founder of Tendenci – The Open Source Membership Management Software project, these topics in sociology do apply very much to our vision. Systems of interaction can change behaviors (do you “like” or not click “like” on FB when a couple breaks up. It’s a serious question. Thus I value your feedback to make https://github.com/tendenci/tendneci/ even better for the open source community.)